Category Archives: Socially fucked up

Who screwd me ??

I succumbed to swetha’s wish when i wasn’t supposed to..

I chose to Let her copy while i was busy worrying about the days i would spend in the ground playing along with my other friends.

I chose to kick a gal in her tummy just cause she insisted me to do it .

It was the usual Boy Vs Gals chat and it was a group chat and almost a furious one and i happened to be the dormant guy in the chat when the gal went on insisting that someone kick her if they had the guts and with no one daring to do anything i chose to kick her without even knowing about her in the very first week at the new school, later did i realize that she was yet another kid of a teacher in the same school and ended up sobbing the whole day after she having a conversation with her mom. Continue reading

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Why Are Conservative Tam Gals So NARROW Minded ?

I’m one of those people who would treat people in a similar fashion regardless of their background, political affiliation, academic background, economic background et all, i dono why but may be just cause i have only one set of protocol cause of being one socially fucked up. I always meet people with an open mind having hardly any hostility with them regardless of how good or bad they were with others, and I often tend to honestly judge them by how good they behave with me personally.

I ,Being part of such a niche 😉 i always wonder why others especially of the other gender aren’t always open and often tend to be very mean and snobbish about the others and this often happens everytime there is a kinda some union among families of different upbringings, to be more precise during the marriages et all. This isn’t the first time i have noticed this but right from my childhood i have noticed it time and again and i’m sure everyone of you would have if you sat through and thought about it. Dont you guys ever think this kinda situation and incompatibilities could have been avoided if there was a clear thought about this issue on both sides ??

Well this is the umteenth time that i’m figuring out that most of such situations are just because of the upringings or immature behaviour or irritating characters on both sides. I always wonder why some of vadivelu and vivek’s jokes about married life are so welcome by the adult community, neither can one leave out the raja’s comments on the salomon papayya’s tamil debates. Ever wonder why so many people throng to have a laugh at their own pathetic life ?

In early childhood i thought they are just kidding about it, hardly did i think this would be such a great issue. Remember my early days in chennai when i hated the tamil cinema totally cause there was more relevance to family life but slowly when the tamil culture started to permeate into me 😉 Only then did i realize that this is one fucking situation which is making every guy exposed to other culture always reluctant to marry a tamil gal. Even during the early flirting days i always was perplexed why the south indian girls are so conservative and so narrow minded when i openly interact with the others the tamilians were the hard even talk to.

I dono but there is something wrong with the genes i think 😉 especially like in case of indian lifestyle and the heart attack. Its really pathetic to see these days girl’s mindset getting narrower and narrower. Since all these gyan was due to my analysis after my brother’s marriage i misssed out on various things which one enjoys during the marriages :P. This lingering thought in me has really caught me by surprise, especially when everyone around keep on asking me about my marriage the only thought that runs through my mind is Mariagge ah ??  big “uwwwak”. Its really hard to convice parents about not getting marriaed but i know its really too early to talk to them about it but i should always be precautious about things since my life is at stake.

Until now i thought the insitution of marriage was to bring harmony and responsibility in one’s life, but with all these thoughts running wild in my head, I now think its one money draining, life worsening, relationship straining, blood pressure increasing  treatment to a joy loving guy like me. I dono what it means to a gal but this is wat a common guy with brains would think about this institution at this juncture of life.

This thought isn’t a random thought but well thought about fact, show me a girl who is open minded at the same time has a traditional touch with a scoop(or many) of modern outlook with a humble and modest outlook, who is personified as a good character, prove me wrong i’ll accept my defeat and rather marry.But the real fact that its really hard to find one make me really happy andrather bask in luxury  that i have set high standards for a gal to even propose to me.

P.S: While writing this post i accidentally had a chat with a gal from my good old school , and as every chat goes it moved onto various topics, i was really testing her for how open she was, but right from the onset she couldn’t stand me hating the poetic tamil verses. This only proves me that i’m right on accusing the tamil girls of being narrow minded. 😉

Am I Really Socially fucked up ??

Have you ever realized the lonelyness or the isolation especially with everyone around in case of a social gathering like the marriages or the wedding receptions et. all and do you happen to sit in a hall filled with so called relatives whom you hardly recognize ? Then hang on you aren’t alone, I have always loved the pleasure of being annonymous 😉 ,But the feeling of being totally isolated despite being in a hall filled with hunderds of so-called relative(or people) is one worse thing one could experience.

Having grown up in a nuclear family, i didn’t feel the need for anyone other than my own family members. Since i was totally devoted to studies amd i hardly took time off to reach out to any of the relatives during the young age, and now in this juncture although i know most of them are closely related or even remotely related i hardly know how they are related to me. Sitting close to an aunt or uncle who speaks to you about each and every childhood moments but despite having all the nostalgic moments and all the persistent try of recognizing the aunt or uncle goes in vain. Although i know i’m a loner but i hate being lonely when it comes to such occasions and the fact of feeling of being isolated in a really big gathering makes me feel as if i’m in a enclose with all stranger. But is this situation because of the nuclear family or  the society in which i grew up, but i knew somethings going wrong these days.

Though i have a liking for being left alone still sometimes i feel i should have someone close to me taking care of me, talking me through the boredom and even making me lighter in case of desperation. Although i stay calm in most of the situation i really feel the need for someone giving me company despite having friends around me. I personally think that i’m getting desperate these days but is this a case of being socially fucked up for a long time or am i really missing a close partner or is it cause of my lean patch of social life . I’m totally in turmoil. This thought has really made me think  am i ready for being one socially fucked up brat any longer ?

Tanjore trip this past week

Days were getting hazier and never seemed to get right, which prompted me to do something unusual so i accompanied my parents to a marriage which i usually dont do, i opted it more so cause this would give me a break from the current sedate life. Since the trip involved lotsa travel to the temples i picked up the iPOD which i normally hate to carry around with me, i picked it up just cause i dont have an alternative to it at this point of time.

Day 1: Sep 9 got up early by 5 and prepared my travel bag and hopped into the calltaxi and got into a Bus which would take me to Tanjore. I had the pleasure of an empty bus which was quieter than the usual crowdy busses. Having a company of a 1yr 8 months old nephew made the journey priceless. After reaching Tanjore went over to meet my cousin sister who is gonna be wedlocked and spoke to her, which was the only thing that i did usefull that day on a Busy house with regards to the marriage work.

Day 2: It was the marriage day with all the people moving around you and the fact that i was sitting there with hardly anyone other than the close relatives taking notice of my presence, made me think that the trip was worthless. But as the marriage progressed i really felt happy that i was “socially fucked up” which made me totally neglect the annoying people and start listening to my stupid iPOD, which made me finally realize that i had a really good set of mp3s and videos on my iPOD. Caught up with few relatives who just like me never appear in such social congregation :). Day passed on with the close relatives and i was glad that there were here to help me kill time.

Day 3: It was the day when i took out the fiesta of my cousin out for a ride. He took me to a ground which was looking like a barren place unlike ground. I was really nervous to start driving it and later on i played with it. I’m sure i couldn’t have driven it that way back here in Chennai.Took a Nap after the driving and then went for another temple in Swamimalai which is like 4 floors high temple. It was one of the temples which made me wonder how did people make such temples back then when there was hardly anything called cranes. Then went to some relative’s houses nearby. I started realizing the fact that being socially fucked is good only when you stay in chennai. People tend to keep on pestering you and you most probably try hard to recall how he/she relates to you. After returning back to tanjore went to the Big Brihadeeswarar temple in the evening which looks really good at night especially with the lighting arrangements .

Day 4: Its when i started thinking about getting back and having the luxury of Broadband back. Still my mom persisted me with the temple visits. She made me to go to a temple in some remote village which is considered to be auspicious and returned late that night

Day 5: Got up late and went to my Uncles house and had a wonderful food and went again to a temple which was constructed only this year and as it is manadatory for a pooja called kumbabhishekam to be done before the hackneyed poojas to be done at the temple. So it was my mom who was in the forefront bringing all the requisite materials for the pooja and again had to sit through that pooja. Again got back home really late and had to get up early next morning. I was really hoping i get back to chennai as early as possible after having to go through all these trouble of travelling and having to sit through all those yagya’s and poojas.

Day 6: As expected got up late and had to rush to the Bus stop to catch the bus to the village where the pooja work was done as most of the family left in the only car. The whole kernel of the pooja was to do abhishegam of the kumbh. While waiting for this to happen, and the fact that one of my uncle is just like me really helped me. We both were mocking at the happenings around and the fact that there were quiet a lotta mallu settlers amongs our relatives and the fact that they had really cute girls helped me a lot ;).Just when me and my uncle were talking about the sight of eagles at the instance of sprinkling religious water at the kumbha, we made about it not happening since a timeframe was set for the pooja to be completed and the sky seemed to be really clear and there was hardly a glimpse of the ubiquitous crows leave alone the eagles. I raised the bet to Rs.100 and told the eagle might not appear and we were anxiously waiting for the sight of any bird circling in sky. Just when were eagerly waiting a sight of a crow made us just LMAO which compelled us to change positions since most of the people around us started thinking about us being sacrilegious which really showed in their questioning faces. Right then out of nowhere eagle appeared and that too very close to the temple and it was gliding through the air very closely and it seemed as if it was having a close look at us. We were totally dumbstruck and never said a thing about it again. I picked up my betting amount and gave it to my uncle, this incident really kindled the atheist part of my brain about the incidence. Right after that there was quiet a lotta instances for us to laugh at firstly there was this instance of God coming into people since it was a village and there were hardly any people like me reasoning the happenings there were kinda lotsa instances where people were dancing and acting weird as if God was into them. I even thought of stabbing one of them. There was even a Dancing couple which made me LMAO and have stomach ache, i ran away for cover just to hide my laughter since most of those around me started doubting me being sacrilegious again. After all these dramas happening we went back to our house and were talking about the happenings, i even had the opportunity to talk to only of those weirdly dancing people thankfully this time the whole family was with me laughing and rolling about the whole incident. After having a small lunch boarded a bus and started feeling that this day was really good.

The worst part of the whole trip was that i took a camcorder with me and left out the batteries behind cause of my rush to board the bus, if at all i had carried it would have created a rage amoung the youtube people wat say ? 😉 . The only thing i realized during this past 6 days is that Socially fucked people and marriages don’t click together. The only thing i think i missed was my granny’s stories, its been long time having heard anyone of them. I hope i do listen to them while she comes back here for my bro’s marriage 🙂